Planning on
remarrying? There is lots of things to consider: ceremony location, gown choice,
family participation, guest diplomacy, wedding reception location, gifts, bridal
party choices, invitation wording, reception planning, religious requirements,
legalities and more.
Second Wedding Ceremonies
Second weddings have a very different meaning from first
weddings. Highlight what is important in your life now, as you recite your vows
for your second wedding.
"All my ceremonies are personally written
with the bride and groom to be. If you don’t want to write your own vows, I have
samples of wedding vows I’ve written and as much help as they need. My motto is:
Their wedding, their way. I’m going to facilitate it and make it a seamless
graceful event," explains Reverend Lorili.
"Think of it this way, I’m their Minister, I minister their
wedding.
"Each wedding is very personal. Often times, I ask my
couples to write a love letter for each other and send it to me. And I include
some of the things written in the letter during their ceremony. Not every couple
wants to do that. Not every couple has enough time or energy but this is an
example of how each wedding ceremony Reverend Lorili is the Minister is uniquely
personal."
Reverend Lorili takes meticulous notes, so she can deliver
a celebrant address that is real. There is no “cookie cutter” conversation; it
has to do with them, the bride and groom.
"I also have a wonderful stone ritual, where
a couple who has gone through a lot of strife from divorce or lost family
members. I have them each hold stones and infuse into the stone all that they
want to get rid of before the start their new life. And then I ask them to throw
the stones, symbolically releasing them," Reverend Lorili continues.
I do allot of work that promotes family
inclusiveness, which is especially fun if there are children and they want to be
part of the ceremony. I am an expert in blending families and honoring all the
children that want to participate at whatever level. Whether it’s a little bit
of participation or playing a major role.
At a recent interview, the couple was
accompanied by an older daughter. I asked her, “You can be as little involved as
you want but I have a sense that you want to be really involved.” She lit up
like a light bulb. According to her parents’ wishes, she played a large part of
the ceremony making it a personal family experience.
I’ve incorporated the family into the
wedding ceremony with a beautiful sand ceremony. When you have children of both
sides of the family, it’s a beautiful ritual. Each family member is given
different colored sand. Have you seen it? They use a beautiful decanter and they
each put a little bit of sand. You see the individual colors then they are
blended to make a new unique color signifying a new family.
I incorporate as much family as the couple
would like. Some people just want their names mentioned, others want a lot more
and I facilitate.
Sometimes, they will give a gift to the
child after they’ve exchanged rings, especially to a younger child to make them
important on this special day.
I help them create something according to their preference
from the heart, from the intellect or a blend of both. I can meet people where
they are, because of my intuitive skills.
The Reverend Lorili Wedding Officiant approach:
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Their wedding, their way. I’m going to facilitate it and make it a seamless graceful event.
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I keep the bride and groom focused on each other and their ceremony |
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I create a sacred space when I perform my wedding ceremonies to acknowledge all families and all faiths.
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I incorporate as much family as the couple would like. Some people just want their names mentioned, others want a lot more and I facilitate. |
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Reverend Lorili is an ordained minister that will
help you create a memorable commitment ceremony that will embrace your values,
traditions and customs. Serving Long Island,
Westchester, Metro New York City area and some of New Jersey. Call (516) 662
- 7282, Reverend Lorili can help you.
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