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If you take a
look at the couples around you, it will become obvious that many were not paying
attention while they were reciting their wedding vows. There are many reasons
for this, none that are truly acceptable, but none the less there are reasons.
Most couples, when they are getting married, seemed to be more focused on what
they are wearing, how they look, who is there and who is missing. Other may not
think about it because they are "in love" and feel that they already know what
they want and what they want to pledge to their loved one.
The true
problem with this is that these couples, may not know what it actually means to
be in love. That initial feeling between to people, the butterflies in your
stomach, this is all puppy love, in my opinion. There is a huge difference
between actually loving someone and being in love with someone.
When you take
care of your elderly grandparents and change them or feed them, you do that out
of love. Which is, in my opinion, a far cry from the hearts and flowers feeling
of being "in love". Don't get me wrong, it is not that it is not valid or a good
reason to be with someone, but there absolutely must be more.
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A successful
marriage must have companionship and friendship that can withstand the test of
time. During a marriage you and your spouse village, hair will and teeth will be
lost, and sometimes so will the mind. Ten, fifteen even 40 years down the road,
you should be able to look at your spouse and love them just as much as you did,
if not more, due to the life and experiences you have shared. This is more then
just a romance novel love, this is the strongest type of love that there is.
You need to
realize that even though you may have fell in love with his smile and full head
of hair, that will all change. You will begin to love him more for standing
bedside you, through all the joys and sorrows that you have experienced
throughout your life together. You will watch him go from a young, sexy boy into
a responsible and secure older man. You need to be able to say, if I was to go
back in time, I would choose him all over again.
For better or
for worse, in sickness and in health, to love, honor and cherish for as long as
you both shall live. It won't be without problems, changes or things to adapt to
and deal with. Marriage problems are the glue of the marriage itself, for with
each one you conquer the marriage becomes stronger than ever before. So don't
get divorced...GET REAL!
About the
Author
Carol Ann has
knowledgeable web articles related to marriage problems. She tries to give you
alternative ways, when you think you may need to see a
marriage
counselor.
Just type in here name and check out some of the articles she has available, it
may just be what your marriage needs. |
